Whether you have been together for years or have just met, these romantic tips will ignite your love life. These tips aren’t about sex, but they will make you more sexy. They are about communication and how to use it to satisfy you and your partner. Relationship can be the source of huge pleasure in your life but often it is a pain in the ass. Thankfully it doesn’t need to be. I will show you how relationship can be a source of safety, passion and even ecstasy. Marge had been married for eighteen years when she came to me for a personal session. Though she loved her husband, her marriage wasn’t all that it might have been. She, inspired by her fiftieth birthday, took a look at her marriage and noticed that anytime she sought to discuss a problem or concern about how they related, her husband, Brad, would get angry, shut down and leave the room. Upon closer, honest examination, she had to admit that their relationship wasn’t getting better. In fact, they were becoming more distant. Brad wanted to avoid confrontation, and the more he sought to avoid it the more she wanted it. She often looked like a bitchy, unsatisfied, powerless housewife. It didn’t take long to teach Marge how to entice Brad out of his shell and back into relationship. Their relationship began to bloom after many years of stagnation. She quickly learned how to speak intimately, without confrontation, fulfilling both of them in the process. I taught Marge how to manage confrontation. She experienced confrontation as connection, Brad wanted to avoid confrontation and so was avoiding her. Tip # One Discover what your partner wants more of and give it to them. Learn the power of Empathy. What does your partner want, what is most important to him/her? Step outside of yourself, putting your attention completely on them. How do they want to be talked to? How often do they need to be complimented? What makes them happy? What do they need or want that you can give them? While putting your attention on your partner may seem obvious I have worked with thousands of couples who have never stepped into their partner’s shoes. Most of them didn’t even know how to discover the deep desires and fears of their partner. Step into your partners shoes often! Tip # Two Discover what your partner wants to avoid and protect them from it. Hopefully if your partner hates Brussels sprouts you wouldn’t fix them for dinner every evening. If you are fixing Brussels sprouts every night please stop immediately! Brad hated anything that looked the least bit like confrontation. He was deeply fearful of it and would do anything to avoid it. Once Marge learned how to communicate without confrontation he discovered that she offered a safe place to talk. He began sharing with her at a much more meaningful level and they enjoyed each other’s company.  Practicing tip 1 and tip 2 will result in better relating, the more you practice these tips the more deeply and intimately you will be able to step into your parter’s shoes, connecting with them. You will discover that both desires, tip one, and fears, tip two, run deep. You will learn things about your partner he/she doesn’t even know and then the adventure of relationship as self discovery really begins. Tip # Three When it doubt, or upset ask a question. A real question that you want to know the answer to. One of the things I taught Marge was how to ask questions. Marge was in the habit of asking questions of Brad like “Why don’t we ever talk anymore?” Thats rhetorical, it isn’t even a real question. Or she would ask “Where did we go wrong?” I taught Marge that the direct way isn’t always the best or most effective way. I showed her how she could make her point without challenging him, without complaining and without sounding like a broken record. Rather than saying “Why don’t we talk anymore?” Marge might begin by asking Brad a question about something of interest to him. “Who was your favorite person to talk to when you were a kid?” Brad relaxed, pondered his favorite person and began talking about positive memories. As Brad spoke Marge listened, learning about what Brad most wanted, fulfilling tip 1. Instantly Brad and Marge were talking about talking, without confrontation, without complaint and with new possibilities. Brad not only likes his “new” wife, he is wild about her. It turns out that he had a lot to say and just needs a little help saying it. Marge has learned more about Brad in the last few months then she learned for decades. Their relationship isn’t stagnant anymore, it is vital, dynamic and rewarding. Marge and Brad both practice tip #3 with each other, with family, friends and co-workers. They are reaping the benefits of better communication all over the place. They get more done in less time. Understand more fully, connect more deeply and don’t waste time arguing. Brad has stopped ducking when Marge talks and they are now spending much more time together. Their increased romance and intimacy isn’t from that one question. Marge has learned how to ask the right question at the right time and Brad reciprocates. Questions, real questions asked with genuine curiosity build beautiful bridges between people, opening communication and inspiring intimacy. I have to warn you. Tip #3 isn’t easy. I know this from personal relationships and experience with thousands of couples in courses. If you are upset, and many people get really upset in relationship, it is difficult to be curious. Tip #3 requires a shift of attention and the defusing of upset. But tip #3 is the singe most powerful tool I know to ensure more rewarding, deeper and more loving relationships. It will super charge your romantic life, turn around a less then thrilling relationship and lead to great passion. How cool is that? The difficulty of tip #3 has inspired me to make it easier for you. In a recent workshop, September 2011, I taught twenty-five people how to effortlessly and easily implement tip #3 in their relationships. I know they got it because the people from the workshop reported that they argued much less, enjoyed relationship more made love more often communicated with compassion became really curious and interested in their partner approached relationship optimistically discovered new inspiring relationships with the same partner What if you could improve not only your romantic relationships but all of your relationships? Wouldn’t that be incredible? It took five hours of practice and play with tip #3 for the participants to really get it. I call this section of the workshop Fire Up Your Romance. It has been digitally recorded, edited and is ready for you. You don’t have to pay 795 dollars either like the workshop participants did. You don’t even have to pay half that. The entire Fire Up Your Romance course can be yours for just one payment of 69 dollars. That is five hours of ground breaking relationship revelations for the price of a dinner for two. Would you like dinner for two or better relationships with everyone you know? You decide. Even if you have been in a dead end relationship for a long time or if you have chronic arguments or just know something is missing in your romantic relationships you owe it to yourself to suspend disbelief. This short course puts three decades of workshop experience at your disposal. Listen, and watch your relationships transform. I promise Fire Up Your Romance will work for you. You will ignite the pleasure and passion of romantic relating. I promise. You can begin relating much more effectively immediately since we will provide the course for you in MP3 format, all ready for your ipod. Listen with your partner if he or she is willing. If not listen yourself and you will both benefit greatly, probably listening together on your second time through. The results of Fire Up Your Romance will speak for themselves. What would it be like to have your life overflowing with romance? Whether you have been married for decades or have just met Fire Up Your Romance is for you. Get yours right now!   Fire Up Your Romance! Order Now! Just 69 dollars! In five short hours Fire Up Your Romance will show you how to increase the quality of all your relationships. It will assist you in self expression and maximize your communication skills without confrontation. Just 69.95 includes the recordings, suggested exercise, individualized support and our promise to you. But that’s not all, it gets way better! Did you know that more than 80 percent of self help sets and books go unread and unused? We want to make sure that doesn’t happen with Fire Up Your Romance. Here is our promise to you.  Take us up on our promise, Get Fire Up Your Romance Immediately A little about Jerry Stocking, the creator of Fire Up Your Romance. Jerry learned these tips the long and difficult way so that you don’t have to. He has been a student of communication technologies for three decades, studying with some of the best communicators on the planet. 

I have been married for twenty-three years. It is a good marriage, but the tips and tools in Fire Up Your Romance have turned it into a great one. You are never too old, or too young to reap the huge benefits of communicating more effectively.                                                                      Peggy Kessinger

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